Dating … Ouch?!
The content will not focus much on giving dating advice to people; for much to the writer’s consternation, he is also at a loss how this ‘relationship’ thingy is supposed to work – or how to even make it work for that matter. Tackling the much-used up ideas of dating can be quite a burden to say the very least, both to the writer and the reader itself. But instead, try to think out of the box and look at dating and relationships in a whole new light.
Millions of dating tips, advice and suggestions on how to make it work can be found anywhere you look. Printed in books, love advice columns in magazines, journals and publications, posted on the internet, and just about any outlet that the author or writer can come up with.
They commonly start with lines like “how you can make your relationship work” or “100 and 1 ways how to get back the love of your life” or “get your love back with these simple tried-and-trusted methods”, or “get your lover back or salvage your relationship with these quick, easy ways”.
Yet one thing’s for certain however, there is no person anywhere in the world who does not think of finding the “one” whom to share the rest of their lives with. Just the thought of waking up in bed next to the person whose name occupies your heart, spending quality time with them, hearing the sounds of their laughter or voice, or just the thought of coming home to that special someone after a tiring work, can definitely make anyone’s day complete.
The aspect of dating and going into dates can be a lot of fun and a heart-racing experience, especially if you are also head-over-heels in love with the person asking you out. In your mind, this dating experience is the right time to know more about your prospective lover-cum future spouse. Dating is the crucial point where one (either the male or the female) can find out more about the other person’s qualities, most especially the character and whether it’s what they are looking for.
Some relationship experts even termed this as the “the hunter and the prey” phase. Of which points out some definite truth since after several dating and goings out together, you will eventually end up as lovers; or yet come to an agreement that you are better of as friends.
Dating is the foundation of any relationship – be it married, as lovers and other whatnots in whatever terms you may call it. But still, do not overlook the fact that one way or another, that dream will come to an end. Either you wake up realizing that the loving feeling or the spark is gone; and suddenly, you are looking at your significant other in a different manner – warning bells, your next act can either put an end to your romantic, dating life and shatter it to pieces or could pave the way to a strengthened, more realistic love.
Now, these are the other sides of dating and relationships that advice columns and relationship gurus do not tell you about. They either feed you misleading advices on how you can cope up with a broken heart, how to get your lover back, or tell you that your relationship is over and there is nothing you can do about it, and that it would be to your benefit if you look for a new one who can replace your lost love.
But it is not that easy for there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. Indeed, much work is required to make the very first phase – the dating part – work well, what more if you try to go on the next level? But like everyone else, you deserve to have a happy love life, but it’s all up to you to make it work. A successful one-to-two-to-three time dates cannot foretell the kind of future you will have with that person; a lot of love, patience, understanding and work must be put into it to make everything work out smoothly up to the end. That is why right from the very start of dating, you have to find out whatever you can about your prospective mate; knowing what their likes and dislikes are, getting familiar with their thoughts and feelings, and most importantly being attuned to their attitudes and behaviors.
All these might not be the key points you are looking for or you can use to make your romantic life stay in great shape, but it sure is a good place to start. Use the dating aspect as your leverage in finding the true and perfect mate for you; or better yet, you can use those guides and pointers in books and forums how you can turn yourself to an ultimate dating match that the opposite gender would want to check out. This way, you are free to scout for potential mates while out on a date yourself, with a real prospect that is also eyeing and testing you out.
But most importantly for dating, try to have fun and enjoy it all. You might not get possible results from your date but the hours well spent will sure make everything worthwhile and memorable to look at. If that guy or girl is the one for you, then everything will just fall into its rightful place with the two of you together – successful dating or not. And perhaps that should be the point you must think of whenever you go out for a dating adventure, for it can make everything worth it.
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